Focus on your strengths to build mental skills

I wanted to look at the topic this week of focusing on your strengths to achieve greater mental skills because many times we get caught up focusing on what we are not good at, and it causes a lot of problems and mental stress. We all have our weaknesses things we are not good at, but if we look at others and see their strengths and then are hard on ourselves for not being as good as they are at something we can really set out selves back from reaching a goal and just being happy. It is important to know what your strengths are and focus on them more then you focus on what you are not good at. Yes you do need to work on things that you are not good at, but it is very important to understand your gifts, because it is our strengths that give us the opportunity to set ourselves apart from others. Those who succeed are not without their faults or limitations, they just know how to leverage their strengths and manage the challenges and surround themselves with people to help manage the challenges. This is one of the reasons I have clients take an assessment to help understand what their strengths are and how to leverage them and what are their limitations and how to manage them.

Take some time to really think of what you are good at, and how you can use that to your advantage. Now think about what you are not the best at and first think of how it does or doesn’t impact what you are trying to accomplish. For example, I was working with one of my clients who plays football. He is a quarterback and has been comparing himself a lot in terms of strength to other players on his team. This is counter productive because the other players play different positions to him, and so when they are in the weight room, if one of the players can bench press more he gets really down on himself, but that player needs that pushing motion to be strong given his position in football. My client the quarterback never really uses a pushing motion in his position. His strength are his legs, and this is very important for the quarterback. The problem is he spends most of his time focusing on the fact he can’t bench press as much as other players that he loses sight of what he is good at, and in the process really eats away at his confidence.

We are most successful when what we are doing and our strengths match up. The more we can match these two things together the better off we will be in the long run. If our limitations are managed appropriately they never really impact us, unless we allow them, and this happens when you overly focus on them. So find your strengths and let them set you apart.